I read an article about being married to a chef. I had to laugh because sometimes, one chef wife’s story is completely different from mine, or yours. Yet the same.
I have been making a little progress on the apartment here.
I was reading an article in Cosmopolitan magazine about celebrities getting married and changing both names to both the wife’s maiden and the husbands last name.
It was almost 3 years ago when I got married and had the last name discussion was before that. I did take his last name leaving my maiden name for the males in my family to keep. C does have my maiden name, for now. I asked B about me keeping my maiden name, just for fun, and he was almost offended. He is from further south than I am and it is his mentality for me to take his last name.
Honestly, I just like asking questions to get opinions, I was going to take his last name anyways. I thought for half a second about hyphenating my name, but I wasn’t that attached to it. And I am pretty sure my dad knew there would be a day that I took another last name.
The thought of B taking my last name and us having 2 last names, it’s just silly. Call us old fashioned. I never had actually signed his last name until I got my new license a few days later. Now, I am very attached to it.
What did you do? Hyphen? Put your maiden name to your middle name? Take his like I did? Make up a whole new one? Or are you both sporting both last names?
Two years ago, I got my third positive pregnancy test. That was April 13, 2011. B and I were cautiously optimistic about it. We had already had one miscarriage under our belt, and we were strong as a couple.
I never thought I would be saying that it’s been 2 whole years since I was pregnant last with no other children besides C.
Sunday sucked. B had to do a catering event. After being apart for 2 months, we are still at the stage where we are getting used to being together again, getting a routine. And then, a month in, we are robbed of our whole day together. I haven’t even been alone with him. It just sucks.
There are many times that people put their foot in their mouths when it comes to my relationship with my husband.
1. Don’t you get lonely?
Yes, don’t you? My husband works long days and long weeks. It’s not always like this, but when it is, it gets lonely. I have a dog and a 9 year old. I don’t get sick days and neither does he. However, I married him knowing what it would be like and I enjoy the quiet too. I like reading books, taking pictures and doing crafts. These are things I don’t need my husband to do with me.
2. It won’t be any fun for you, everyone else has a date.
This was said by a single woman hosting the party I was invited to. She didn’t have a date either. I had a good time, but I also enjoy people watching.
3. I bet you get to eat lots of home cooked meals made by B.
Yea, Ok. No, I am the main cook in the house and I am pretty darn good at it. If you are ever invited to our home for a meal, it was likely prepared by me. The last thing B really wants to do is come home and cook. Besides that, dinner was hours ago and C was hungry then.
4. I bet you have all the kitchen gadgets in your kitchen.
Some chefs have them. In our home, the fancy kitchen gadget is the Kitchenaid mixer. It’s a 6qt bowl and we don’t have any fancy attachments for it. We have a nice set of knives. These were all given to us when we got married. I also have a cheap hand mixer. Doesn’t everyone? Besides those things, we do have a nice set of pots and pans that B had before we were married. B is not a huge fan of the cutesy crap you get at any kitchen store.
Can you think of any that I have forgotten? Let me know!