Divorce… Not Our Cup of Tea!

I think this is something that happens quite a bit in the “industry” (restaurant industry that is).

Recently, B found out that a former sous chef of his is getting a divorce. It saddens both of us to hear this. We never like hearing that people we know are getting a divorce. It sucks.

My parents divorced when I was 2. My mom remarried fairly quickly and was divorced from him by the time I was 8. My dad waited a long time before marrying again and I was a bridesmaid in his wedding. He got a divorce a few years ago. My mom got married again a few years ago, for the 3rd time.

I know what it’s like for a kid and it’s not easy. I never wanted my daughter to feel that way. So, when B and I got engaged, I knew before he even asked that divorce was never a part of our future. We don’t think it’s the right thing for us. I would say we don’t believe in it, but it’s kind of hard to say that.

We entered our marriage at 25 (me) and 35 (B). We waited to find the right person and we were never shy about who we were. I knew I was marrying a chef. I knew that it wasn’t going to be puppies and rainbows. I knew that there would be times when I was going to be doing things on my own. I am perfectly fine with that. I just know that he loves me and I love him and that’s all that matters at the end of the day.

XOXO
Jes

Why would you say that to a Chef’s wife?

There are many times that people put their foot in their mouths when it comes to my relationship with my husband.

1. Don’t you get lonely?
Yes, don’t you? My husband works long days and long weeks. It’s not always like this, but when it is, it gets lonely. I have a dog and a 9 year old. I don’t get sick days and neither does he. However, I married him knowing what it would be like and I enjoy the quiet too. I like reading books, taking pictures and doing crafts. These are things I don’t need my husband to do with me.

2. It won’t be any fun for you, everyone else has a date.
This was said by a single woman hosting the party I was invited to. She didn’t have a date either. I had a good time, but I also enjoy people watching.

3. I bet you get to eat lots of home cooked meals made by B.
Yea, Ok. No, I am the main cook in the house and I am pretty darn good at it. If you are ever invited to our home for a meal, it was likely prepared by me. The last thing B really wants to do is come home and cook. Besides that, dinner was hours ago and C was hungry then.

4. I bet you have all the kitchen gadgets in your kitchen.
Some chefs have them. In our home, the fancy kitchen gadget is the Kitchenaid mixer. It’s a 6qt bowl and we don’t have any fancy attachments for it. We have a nice set of knives. These were all given to us when we got married. I also have a cheap hand mixer. Doesn’t everyone? Besides those things, we do have a nice set of pots and pans that B had before we were married. B is not a huge fan of the cutesy crap you get at any kitchen store.

Can you think of any that I have forgotten? Let me know!